Published June 11, 2025

Leader of Men: King Stage Diagnostic Tool

Written by Ryan Ottosen

Use this diagnostic with full honesty. Pray before you begin. The goal is not perfection — the goal is exposure for healing.

SECTION 1 — The Realm Inventory

My Realm (list clearly):

Rate yourself 1–5 (1 = very weak; 5 = very strong):

Category	Score (1–5)
I carry full responsibility for my realm without blame or excuse.	___
I actively build environments where others thrive and grow.	___
I confront hard truths in myself and others quickly and directly.	___
I am slow to anger, quick to listen, and careful with my authority.	___
My power is surrendered daily to God; I serve before I rule.	___
My leadership reflects justice, mercy, and humility.	___
I regularly seek correction, counsel, and accountability.	___

Which Whole Heart Metric is weakest right now? Circle ONE:

Describe the current wound or breakdown you see in this area:

Answer with brutal honesty:

Where am I still grabbing control out of fear? ______________________________________________
Where am I still tolerating dysfunction to avoid conflict? ______________________________________________
Where am I serving my own comfort instead of my calling? ______________________________________________
Where am I neglecting people entrusted to my care? ______________________________________________
Where am I building a personal kingdom instead of the Kingdom? ______________________________________________

Prayerfully answer:

What is God asking me to release right now? ______________________________________________
What part of my heart still needs healing before I can rule well? ______________________________________________
Who in my brotherhood needs to speak into my blind spots? ______________________________________________
What does it look like for me to rule like Jesus right now? ______________________________________________

"The health of your realm reflects the health of your heart."